Yesterday, we found out the mould had returned in our flat and ruined some of our stuff, including the bed. I found this really disheartening, as we thought the actions we had taken had stopped this from happening, but obviously they weren’t effective enough. We planned to stay here while we saved up some money, but sadly, we’re going to be unable to do that anymore. This made me really upset, and, to be honest, I just wanted to cry. And cry and cry and cry. But, I knew this was not how I should deal with the situation. There was nothing I could do to change things so there was no point winding myself up by thinking about it again and again.
From my experience yesterday, I’ve come up with a few tips for making yourself feel better when something doesn’t go your way. I must mention, these are not for everyone. I don’t claim to be an expert on any of this. This is just from my own experience. Enjoy!
Tip 1. Think of the positives
For instance, with my mould situation I’d think “only some of my stuff is ruined” or the more insane “the mould must want to be our friend”. If you can’t think of anything positive about the situation, think about the good things in your life instead. What’s going well? What do you enjoy? Focussing on the negative will only make you feel worse, so it’s best if you avoid it.
Tip 2. Do something you enjoy
Strangely, I’m not a person who enjoys dealing with mould, so yesterday I needed to do something that would take my mind off the situation. I put on Tony Hawk’s Pro Skater 5 and spent four hours upside down on an imaginary half-pipe. No, it didn’t miraculously make the problem go away, and no, Tony Hawk is not an experience mould-cleaner, but it distracted me for long enough to make me feel better. Watch some TV, write something fun and fictional, just DON’T sit there thinking about what made your day so bad. You’ll never improve it if you do that.
Tip 3. Put on some happy music
When you’re having a bad time it can be tempting to go all Bridget Jones and wallow in your own bad situation, but singing ‘All By Myself’ and crying won’t improve anything, apart from your ability to sing and cry simultaneously. Pretend proven fact: Upbeat, positive tunes are much more challenging to cry to. So wipe those tears and put on something you can dance to. Unless all your furniture is in the middle of the living room because it’s covered in mould.
Note: The previous sentence is an example of “negative thinking”, which, for the purpose of feeling better, we are not doing. A positive way to say this would be: ‘even mould-covered furniture can be danced around’. So dance around your mould-covered furniture and have fun!
How do you deal with a bad situation?